Form 9F

Assertiveness

Remember the following points in practicing assertiveness:

Take a moment to think before you speak.

Be specific and direct in what you say.

Pay attention to your body language (use direct eye contact;

face the person you’re addressing).

Be willing to compromise.

Restate your assertion if you feel that you’re not being heard.

Form 9G

Assertiveness Practice Exercises

These exercises will help you become aware of your style of handling various social situations. The four common response styles are passive, aggressive, passive–aggressive, and assertive. Pick two different social situations. Write brief descriptions of them and of your responses to them.

Then decide which of the four common response styles best describes each response.

Situation 1 (describe):___________________________________________________________

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Your response:________________________________________________________________

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Circle response style: passive aggressive passive–aggressive assertive If your response was

not assertive, think of an assertive response and write it down here:______________________

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Situation 2 (describe):___________________________________________________________

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Your response:________________________________________________________________

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Circle response style: passive aggressive passive–aggressive assertive If your response was

not assertive, think of an assertive response and write it down here:

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