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It is hard to live with and love an alcoholic. I will give you tips and advice on things you can do for YOU. Things that will help you cope with the daily life of living with an alcoholic.
I know the pain, sadness, anxiety, and depression that can come from living with an alcoholic for I have lived it. I have lost my alcoholic, she died from alcohol and now I want to help others. I have spent many years trying to figure out where I was heading and how I would get there. I felt that I had to many hurdles, to much past emptiness and I blamed everything going on in my life on my alcoholic. I want to show you the things I have learned and what worked for me. Please read on, you will see you are not alone and there is something you can do right now.
The very first thing you should know is that you are not alone. Many people suffer from living with an alcoholic. You feel like you can not understand why they do this. How can you change them? Sadly, you can not. But, you can change yourself. You can change how you handle the situation and how you deal with the situation. There are many programs that are free in your community that can help you. I recommend finding a local Alanon meeting to attend and if you are a teenager, there is Alateen. These are confidential meetings where you meet with others feeling like you do. It helps to have others input and can make a big difference in how you feel. The people who attend these meetings are very loving, caring individuals who just want to help and be helped. You help each other. In my mothers final years, it was me who showed her I loved her unconditonally. While it did not stop her from drinking, I knew that she knew I loved her. And after her death, I had no regrets. I feel this is important. You learn that loving them is through understanding they do not do this to hurt you. Even they know it is hurting, but it is a disease. They need help, but you must help yourself also. By helping yourself, you can love them and you.
The next thing you can do is get knowledgeable. Go to the library and take out books on alanon and alcoholism. You will learn coping techniques from them while also gaining a new understanding. I also suggest books on how to lesson stress, meditation, perhaps even yoga.